I Can't Do This VS How Can I Do This?

If you were to ask yourself right this very second - ‘Do I embrace growth mindset or is my mindset fixed?’, what would the answer be?

If your answer is growth all the way…then good on ya! You’re going to pass that sweet sauce on to your kiddos.

If your answer is not growth mindset or you aren’t sure, then it’s time for a shift. After all, leading by example is the best way to shape the next generation.

Growth mindset is a very simple belief system that permeates literally every single part of your life. And the lives of your children!

Such an easy concept has a far-reaching effect on each & every human on this planet, whether we acknowledge it or not!

So doesn’t it make sense for us to be certain that we not only understand and practice growth mindset, but that we are teaching our children to do the same? Small shifts in our words & thoughts are the best place to start.

Can’t vs. Can

It’s really easy to say, ‘I can’t do this!’ And maybe sometimes we really feel that way…but you know what?

You CAN do it!Making tiny shifts in our vocabulary will reap huge rewards. Just because you run into a challenge or haven’t done something before, does not mean it’s impossible!

Instead of thinking/saying/believing you can’t do something, try shifting into the mode of perseverance & curiosity.

“How can I do this?” “I haven’t done this yet, but I can figure out how!” “Up until now, I haven’t don't this, but I’m willing to bet I can make it happen!”

These are all fantastic examples of how managing our mindset can give us huge wins.

Can’t vs Can…Do you see how the difference is just ONE little letter… But the results are astronomical!

Why limit ourselves and model fixed thinking to our children? We absolutely CAN do whatever we set our minds to…and so can our kiddos! How exciting to think about the endless possibilities when we remove the word “can’t” from our vocabulary.

Words Are Power

Words are one of our greatest superhero weapons! We hold so much power…or weakness…in how we choose our words. By changing our words, we can influence & dominate! Or we can crash and burn.

We hold our strength & authority in the words we choose to use. They make or break us. Doesn’t it make sense to be a champion & only use words that lift up those around us?

The same exact concept goes for the way we think about and talk to ourselves! Saying & thinking negativity doesn’t help anyone.

Take those ugly words and kick em’ to the curb! They don’t have any place in a superhero’s heart.

Accountability

Kids LOVE games! If I’m honest, I’ll admit I love them, too.

Turning the accountability surrounding growth mindset into a game, will create habits that your children will hold onto for life! It’s important to cement positively reframed words and thoughts into routines. Pretty soon it’s simply second nature for your kids to exclaim, ‘I CAN!’

As we teach our children to change their words, we can help one another by identifying ways to replace stinkin’ thinkin’.

Notice when your child uses less than awesome vocabulary and encourage them to do the same for you. You can grow together!

Ask Great Questions

Asking questions is a wonderful way to see areas that need development. Let’s say your child is always forgetting their homework at school. Instead of harshly criticising your kiddo, explore all the new ways that could help them remember to bring their homework with them every night like clockwork. With teamwork & positivity, you’ll be able to change those “I Can’ts” into consistent “I Cans” and celebration!

Operation Growth Mindset

Identify areas that need positive improvement, hold everyone in the home to the same accountability standards, explore fun new ways to implement your improved thought processes, be consistent & before you know it, you’ll be experiencing the fruits of your labour. Growth mindset will be the new norm!

Watch my video below to discuss tips and games for changing stinkin’ thinkin’ into glowin’ growin’ thoughts.